Are you tired of karmic relationships and failed relationships that are simply not aligned with your Higher Self?
If this is the case, it may be the time to learn how to attract your Soulmate into your life and create that amazing relationship from scratch!
In the spiritual community, everyone is buzzing about how to attract your Soulmate or your Twin Flame and what to do if you want to attract them.
I am here to present you with a different approach!
Since you probably already know what to do to attract your Soulmate, if you haven’t drawn them to you yet, I will share with you the things you shouldn't do if you want to be successful in this spiritual quest.
Because you may have been focusing on what you have to do for a while now, not you haven’t been aware that there can be certain things you are doing that are sabotaging this process.
This being said, let’s have a look look at the things you should avoid doing when trying to attract your Soulmate!
10 Things to Avoid In Order To Attract Your Soulmate
#1. Low Self-esteem
There are times in life when we have lower self-esteem than usual.
This is usually the consequence of trauma, complicated situations, disappointment, and toxic relationships.
However, while it’s normal to experience periods of low self-esteem from time to time, you have to do everything in your power to raise your self-esteem and your vibration.
With low self-esteem and a low vibrational frequency, you will continue to attract toxic or karmic relationships that will leave you defeated and disappointed.
To raise your self-esteem, you will have to work on that trauma and pain which is causing low self-esteem.
You can either do this by yourself, or you can do it with the help of a therapist.
It doesn’t matter how you choose to do it, as long as you do it effectively.
Also, consider raising your vibrational frequency in order to help with your self-esteem and in order to be able to attract better into your life.
When your vibration is higher, you are more aligned to love, peace of mind, and all the beautiful things. Thus, you are more likely to attract them into your life!
#2. Beating yourself up
Another thing that can prevent you from attracting your Soulmate is if you continue to beat yourself up over past mistakes.
We have all made mistakes and bad choices in the past, but if we keep holding onto those mistakes, we will never be able to move forward and enjoy a fresh start.
If you don’t stop beating yourself up, you will not be able to create a better life for yourself – because the energy you could be putting into creating this dream life is going towards blaming yourself.
The key to stopping beating yourself up is to forgive yourself.
Forgiveness is a great tool that can purify your entire life, allowing you to start fresh and have a better relationship with yourself.
Thus, if you want to attract your Soulmate, you must forgive yourself and stop beating yourself up for your past mistakes.
Accept that you, just like another human, are meant to make mistakes from which you learn and grow.
Instead of beating yourself up and blaming yourself, just take your lesson and move on, creating the life of your dreams with your newly acquired wisdom.
#3. Not setting healthy boundaries
Setting the right boundaries is one way of deciding what we allow and don’t allow in our lives.
When we allow anything in our lives, whether it’s good or bad for us, we send the message to the Universe that we will accept just about anything – and that we don’t have standards.
That’s when many things will start coming towards us that is not meant for us and are not beneficial.
When we set healthy boundaries, the Universe is also selecting what it will send to us.
Because everything is energy, and being selective is one way of attracting better.
#4. Not expressing your needs and desires
Not expressing your needs and desires in a relationship is similar to not setting healthy boundaries but can potentially be even more harmful.
If you tend to stay in relationships in which your needs and wants are not expressed and not taken into account, you basically stay in relationships in which you’re only fulfilling the other person’s needs and desires.
This means you allow the other person to use you, and none of you may not even be aware of that – at least not at a conscious level.
This will create a lot of frustration, disappointment, and anger, and as emotion is energy, will create a lot of negative energy around you.
Needless to say, these energies will push you further away from your attracting your Soulmate and more towards the spectrum of toxic relationships.
#5. Toxic relationships
Allowing toxic relationships into your life is certainly one way to move away from your Soulmate.
We all have a certain amount of toxic relationships we need to confront ourselves with – as part of our soul or karmic contracts- but we must also know when a toxic relationship has served its purpose and must end.
If you feel that you’ve paid your karma and learned your lesson, move on without regrets, and you will actually make space for your Soulmate to come into your life.
#6. Not listening to your intuition
No doubt, our intuition is a gift from God. When we experience an intuitive hunch, our Soul – also known as the Divine Essence in us, is speaking to us.
Intuition was given to us to help us advance in the right direction, and not listening to it will take us further away from our destiny.
Also, our intuition is meant to bring us closer to our Soulmate – as our Soulmate is a part of our Destiny and of the right path for us.
Not listening to our intuition means not honoring this sacred gift that we were given, and it’s most likely going to take us further away from the good things in our lives – including a beautiful Soulmate relationship.
#7. Not expressing your Inner Truth
Not expressing your inner truth is another thing that can prevent you from attracting your Soulmate.
When you express your inner truth and listen to your Intuition, you are making a step in the direction of what is truly meant for you.
Expressing your inner truth means always saying what you are thinking, making the choices that you feel are best for you, and not accepting anything that is not in alignment with who you are.
When you are expressing your inner truth, you are creating a life that is in complete alignment with your True Self – if you wish, a life that is for your Higher Good.
That is when your Soulmate can also come into your life because you will be on the energetic frequency of a Soulmate relationship.
You can only attract your Soulmate when you are on the energetic frequency of your Higher Self, living a life that is in alignment with who you truly are because they are a part of that higher frequency as well.
Just like I always say – everything is energy, so choose your energies wisely.
#8. Settling for bad relationships
Here I am referring to all types of relationships – not just romantic ones.
I am, of course, talking mainly about romantic ones, but pay attention to all the relationships in your life – friendships, work or business partnerships, colleagues, family relationships, etc.
Are you being respected in these relationships? Are they authentic relationships based on mutual support, growth, and equal rights?
Are your needs and wants also being met, or are you being used? Do you also have a shoulder to cry on, or are you just required to offer one?
If you tolerate bad relationships regarding their nature, you will attract more bad, unilateral ones.
Because you attract what you are and what you tolerate.
If you want to attract a healthy and happy Soulmate relationship, you need first to change all the relationships in your life for the better.
State your needs and demand respect. Work for improving the relationships that can be improved and end the ones that cannot be improved.
Make room for the people who will deserve you and treat you good, and embody the energy of love and respect.
That’s when you will attract this energy back to you, and that’s when you will also attract your Soulmate.
#9. Tolerating situations that make you unhappy
Tolerating situations that make you unhappy is another thing that will push you further away from attracting your Soulmate or creating your dream life.
The same thing will happen – you will attract the energy of lack and frustration, which will impact all areas of your life.
If you are being inauthentic in one area of your life, whether it’s work, family, hobbies, housing, or love, the inauthenticity will also impact the other areas.
How? Just think about how interconnected all of these areas actually are! Your work life is impacting your love life indirectly – but massively.
I will even give you an example of such an indirect impact.
Let’s assume that you agree to work overtime to please your boss, even though that is not what you really want to do, nor is it for your greater good.
You continue to work overtime for a couple of days, and your partner, who was already thinking you spend too little time with them, becomes very dissatisfied with the fact that they barely see you anymore.
Then, you also discover you have less time to go to the gym; thus, your health and fitness become impacted, and you gain weight.
You also start feeling tired and lose your vitality, so other friends and family complain that you don’t have time for them anymore.
Do you see how one small inauthenticity from your work area is now impacting all the other areas of your life and causing a whole set of problems – just like the butterfly effect?
This is why tolerating situations that make you unhappy will push your Soulmate further away from you and cause you even more unhappiness.
#10. Not following your real life-path
We were all born with a Higher Purpose – a Divine Mission, a Higher Calling in life.
This Higher Purpose is usually what we have to do to fulfill our role in this lifetime and to advance on our Spiritual Journey.
Our Higher Purpose helps us pay karma, acquire Dharma (positive Karma) and evolve in the cycle of incarnations.
I’m sure you’ve often heard people say, “I feel like I’ve lost my path,” or “ I feel completely lost” – and usually, when someone says something like this, is also when depression starts kicking in.
Or maybe, you were the person who said and felt something like this.
The problem is that is relatively easy to make a wrong decision at some point and lose your way a little bit.
One wrong choice can put you on a completely different path than the path you were supposed to take to fulfill your Divine Mission, to shine your Divine Light while also helping others evolve.
When you’ve lost your path, you are confronted with feelings of confusion, frustration, feeling alone and lost, and nothing seems to go well anymore.
Needless to say that from this space, it’s almost impossible to meet your Soulmate.
Or, if you do meet them, the relationship will be a Karmic Soulmate one and may not go very well.
The good news is that your intuition – the sacred gift I was telling you about, will always warn you when you’re not on the right path.
All you have to do is tune in and listen to it.
Thus, it’s very important that every time you find yourself wandering on a path that feels wrong, to try and see which is, in fact, the right path for you, and go back on it.
Don’t be afraid to make all the necessary changes and allow yourself to start fresh, choosing a more aligned path with who you are.
Because most of the Soulmate articles are talking about what to do to attract your Soulmate, I wanted to take a different approach and show you what NOT TO DO to succeed in this spiritual endeavor.
Attracting a Soulmate is a beautiful experience that everyone deserves to have and enjoy; this is why I am trying to guide you towards meeting yours.
Even if you are using the Law of Attraction right and trying to do all the necessary things, there could be things that you are doing without being aware of how they are blocking you.
Using the Law of Attraction is not always sufficient to attract or Soulmate. Sometimes you also have to let go of toxic habits and people in your life to align yourself with the frequency of meeting a Soulmate.
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Alexandra, the head author at Subconscious Servant is a Psychologist, Reiki Therapist, and writer. She loves writing about any topic from Applied Psychology, Metaphysical and Spiritual healing, hoping that people on a spiritual, self-discovery journey will find guidance and light through her articles. If you want to read more about Alexandra, visit her full author bio here.