The idea of having a soulmate is wonderful, but it can also be a fantasy that can lead to many problems in one's life.
Some people get it into their heads that their soulmate will be absolutely perfect.
The problem is that there is no such thing as perfect, and too many people are setting themselves up for huge falls.
Thinking that a soulmate is out there somewhere who will be the solution to all of one's problems and create a happily ever after fairy tale ending is a great way to end up being very disappointed.
Yes, we all have soulmates, but all too many people have unrealistic expectations of what a soulmate should be, and because of these expectations, divorce rates are higher than ever.
Today we are going to explore 11 myths about soulmates.
You will learn the myths and the truths, which should give you a much better understanding of what a soulmate really is. Let's get started.
11 Soulmate Myths Busted
We all dream about our one true love, the soulmate who will make life complete. But, all too often, we become consumed by the need for someone who is going to be the answer to all of our prayers.
This can actually do a lot more harm than good.
Sure, it's fun to fantasize once in a while, but it is more important to be grounded in reality.
Let's take a look at 11 of the most common myths about soulmates, and find out the real truth.
1. Everyone has One Soulmate
For some reason, a myth has been generated that makes people think they can only have one soulmate.
This myth also perpetuates the idea that we have to find this person or someone else will get them first.
There are many different types of soulmates, and there can be several potentials.
But, when we lock ourselves into the idea that there is only one true soulmate, we end up missing out on many opportunities for loving relationships.
We end up with expectations that exceed reality and look for something that may or may not exist.
There is no one in this world who can live up to these expectations, and we end up feeling let down when we don't find what we fantasize about.
Remember, not all soulmates are meant to be romantic partners. You can have soulmates who are friends, family members, coworkers, etc.
Just because you don't share a romance with someone doesn't mean they can't be an important part of your life.
2. If You Don't Know Your Soulmate Now, You Never Will
Many people are under the false impression that they never will if they haven't met their soulmates by a certain time in their life.
Keep in mind that everyone is different and does things in different ways and at different times in their lives.
When it comes to finding your soulmate, there is no right or wrong. When it is meant to happen, it will happen.
Before we can enjoy a true soulmate relationship, we need to work on ourselves. We need to develop spiritually and emotionally, and the time needed for this development varies from person to person.
One way we learn is through relationships, which is normal to have several relationships. In fact, all of our relationships are learning experiences.
The more you take from each relationship, the more you are able to bring into the next one.
Enjoy all of these relationships, and know that everything happens for a reason.
3. You Will Attract the Soulmate You Want
The universe doesn't send us soulmates because we are attracted to a certain type.
As the Rolling Stones said in their famous song, “you can't always get what you want, but if you try some times, you just might find you get what you need.”
There are far too many “experts” out there who recommend that we visualize what we want in a soulmate.
They say we can manifest our desires to bring our ideal soulmates to us.
This couldn't be farther from the truth, and it definitely isn't how the law of attraction works.
One's ideal soulmate isn't necessarily what they have dreamed about since childhood.
In fact, one's ideal soulmate is someone who will help them grow spiritually and emotionally.
Rather than focusing on what you want, take time to focus on what you need. When the time is right, you will find your soulmate.
4. Soulmate Relationships Require No Work
It is thought by many that soulmate relationships just happen, and they do not require any work.
Actually, all relationships require work in order to keep them on track.
Remember, if it is worthwhile, it is worth working for.
There will be issues in any relationship, and it is important to deal with the issues as they arise to avoid bigger problems further down the road.
Yes, your soulmate is a partner with whom you share a deep and powerful connection.
But, at the same time, you will not always agree on everything.
If you think otherwise, you will be in for a huge letdown.
There are going to be disagreements at times, but these disagreements can help you grow as an individual and as a couple.
Rather than looking at your relationship as something out of a fairy tale, take advantage of the opportunity for personal growth.
5. All Soulmates are Human
In most cases, when we think of soulmates, we are thinking about other human beings. But, not all soulmates are human.
Many people have deep, intense bonds with their furry friends. In fact, many people are closer to their pets than any other humans, even their own family members.
The bond between humans and their pets is not something to take lightly.
Remember, there are many different types of soulmates out there, and it may just be that your beloved pet is one of your most real soulmates.
Obviously, this isn't going to be a romantic soulmate relationship. But, it is a very special relationship and definitely one that should be encouraged, cultivated, and cherished.
6. Soulmates have Everything in Common
Some people are under the misguided belief that they and their soulmates will have everything in common and there will be no differences.
Every single person in this world is an individual, and no two people can ever be completely alike.
This isn't to say that you and your soulmate won't have a lot in common.
But, you are also going to have several differences. You may or may not like all of the same things.
You may or may not have the same life goals. This is okay.
Yes, soulmates should complement one another. But, they do not have to be exact clones of one another.
In fact, this is pretty much impossible, and if you are looking for someone who loves everything you love and dislikes everything you dislike, you are going to waste a lot of time and effort searching.
True soulmates will appreciate each other's differences.
They will enjoy exploring new ideas together and learning from one another.
7. Soulmates Stay Together Forever
Unfortunately, not all relationships end happily ever after, and this includes soulmate relationships.
This is a myth that can cause many people a lot of pain because it is just that, a myth.
Sure, it is wonderful to think that once we meet that special someone, we will have a relationship that stands the test of time.
But, just because someone is your soulmate doesn't mean they will stick around forever.
Any couple, including soulmates, can have problems that they can't get past and end up parting ways.
Some people are with their soulmates for life, but others may only be with them for a much shorter period of time.
All we can say is that nothing is meant to last forever. If you find yourself in a soulmate relationship, cherish it for what it is right now.
Tomorrow is never promised.
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8. Soulmate Sex is Always Awesome
When it comes to common soulmate myths, this is one of the biggest ones.
You might be surprised to learn that sex with a soulmate is like sex with anyone else. It may or may not be great.
Or, there may be times when it is awesome, and other times when it is just so-so.
With so many books, movies, etc. giving us the wrong idea about love, romance, and sex, it isn't surprising that many people think they will have the best sex of their lives once they are with their soulmates.
Remember, not only is sex a physical thing, but it is also spiritual and emotional.
For most of us, the desire to have sex is really more of a desire to share intimacy with someone. But, it is just one type of intimacy that we share with our partners.
When it comes to sex, there are many factors involved that will affect the quality. Sometimes, one of you may not be in the mood.
Other things that need to be done, such as taking care of the kids or going to work.
Instead of concentrating on having the best sex ever, concentrate on enjoying the sharing of intimacy with the one you love.
9. Soulmates are Always of the Opposite Sex
Throughout the ages, we have been conditioned to believe that our ultimate perfect partner or soulmate will be someone of the opposite sex.
In fact, most religions teach that all soulmate relationships are heterosexual.
When it comes to love, there should be absolutely no restrictions.
We can't help who we fall in love with, and we should never feel persecuted because the person we love doesn't fit into the traditional narrative.
It may be that your soulmate shares your gender, and this is perfectly okay. You should feel free to love whoever you want to love.
If this person enriches your life, no one has the right to tell you that they are not your soulmate.
Always remember that we have many soulmates in our lifetimes, and not all of them will be the same gender as us.
10. Your Soulmate will Complete You
One of the most destructive myths about soulmates is that your soulmate will complete you.
Not only is this incredibly misleading, but it can also lead to you thinking you can't be a whole person without a soulmate in your life.
We hear a lot about our soulmates being our other halves and how we can't live a full life without soulmates.
Unfortunately, this also leads people to believe they aren't responsible for their happiness.
If you are waiting for a soulmate to make you feel complete and happy, you will not have the great life you envisioned for yourself. It is up to you to create your own good life.
When your soulmate finally does come along, they will complement what you have already created.
You won't need them to complete you, as they won't need you to complete them.
11. You Must Seek Out Your Soulmate
Probably the biggest myth about soulmates is that you can go out and find your soulmate.
Whether you believe it or not, the universe has a grand plan for each of us, and that plan includes when we will meet our soulmates.
You can look all you want, but until the time is right, you are not going to find your soulmate.
So, rather than wasting time looking, open yourself up to meeting new people and doing new things.
Whether we like it or not, we have absolutely no control over when we will meet our soulmates.
It will happen when it happens.
If you haven't already met a soulmate, chances are they are going to simply come into your life out of the blue when you least expect them.
Until then, enjoy living your life the way you want to live it.
To Sum Up
We all want to have soulmate relationships. For most of us, there will be more than one soulmate relationship. But, if you are looking for something that only exists in myths, you are going to be sorely disappointed.
Remember, your soulmate is someone who is going to compliment you and grow with you.
Once a soulmate enters your life, you will likely know it and want to work hard to cultivate this relationship.
Ignore the soulmates myths, and just let things happen as they are meant to happen.
Alan is the founder of Subconscious Servant. He has a passion for learning about topics such as spirituality and the metaphysical world. The thing he loves to explore most though is manifesting with the law of attraction ✨.