An ex is an ex for a reason, but just because someone is an ex, it doesn't mean we still don't think about them from time to time.
In fact, often our thoughts can manifest themselves in our dreams, and we end up dreaming about our exes.
So, what does it actually mean when you dream about an ex?
Well, there could be several meanings, depending on the nature of the dream.
It doesn't necessarily mean that you want to get back together with this person.
Obviously, you are going to wonder why you are dreaming about a person who is no longer a part of your life.
In fact, it can even happen when you are happy in a new relationship.
Today we are going to take a look at some of the various spiritual reasons why you may be dreaming about your ex.
Let's get started.
What Are The Spiritual Meanings Of Dreaming About An Ex?
It isn't uncommon for one to dream about their ex, and contrary to popular belief, it doesn't always necessarily mean that you want that person back in your life.
In fact, there could be several spiritual meanings of dreaming about your ex.
Let's take a look at nine reasons why you may be dreaming about your ex.
There are Unresolved Feelings
It could be that you have some unresolved feelings about your ex.
Now, before you jump up and say that you are no longer interested in this person, remember that these unresolved feelings may not have anything to do with romantic feelings.
There is a great possibility that you never received any type of closure when the relationship ended.
You may have a lot of feelings about that, and you aren't happy about how things ended between the two of you.
Maybe this person decided to break it off, which came as a complete shock to you.
In this case, you are still grappling with those feelings, and you need to have closure so you can move on to a better relationship.
You're Worried about Success in New Relationships
If you have just started a new relationship with someone else, you may be dwelling on things that happened in past relationships.
You want to make sure that things actually work out this time, and you think about the things that went wrong and right in your past relationships.
These are likely things that you think about when you are awake, as well as in your dreams.
After all, there are a lot of things you need to sort out, and this can take over your dreams as well as your waking thoughts.
This really is nothing to worry about.
If you are about to enter into a new relationship, it is likely just your subconscious trying to reassure you that the new relationship can be much better than the last one.
There are Bigger Problems at Play
We all know that in most cases, dreams are less literal than they are symbolic.
In most cases, when we dream about something, the reality is just the opposite.
It could be that you are thinking about why your last relationship ended, and how you could have done things differently, particularly if it was your fault.
Even if it wasn't your fault, you may still be trying to sort out what happened in order to keep it from happening in future relationships.
Once you are able to sort out your feelings, learn from the mistakes made in the past, and work at not repeating them, it is likely that you will stop having these particular dreams.
You are Not Over Your Ex
While it is likely that there are many other reasons why you may be having these dreams, there is still the possibility that you aren't completely over your ex.
It may be that you still have feelings for this person.
If this is the case, it is time for you to do some serious soul searching.
This is not something that you should just put off and hope the feelings go away.
You will need to figure out why you still have feelings for your ex, and to do this, you will need to be completely honest with yourself.
Once you are able to deal with those unresolved feelings, it will be much easier for you to move on to a new relationship.
You are Actually Dreaming about Yourself, Not Your Ex
It could be that when you are dreaming about your ex, that you are actually dreaming about yourself.
Maybe you feel that in past relationships, you have given too much of yourself and have given up many of the things you love.
It could also mean that you have been neglecting your own needs.
Maybe you haven't been completely honest with yourself about why the relationship ended (perhaps feeling like everything that went wrong was your fault), and you have some unresolved issues about that.
It might be a good time to really analyze yourself and how you behaved in your past relationship.
That way, you will be able to see if there is anything you could have done differently, and then make sure that you do things right in your next relationship.
You are Afraid of Being Hurt Again
Getting over a relationship can be particularly painful, and it doesn't always happen overnight.
In fact, there are times when it can take weeks or even months to completely get over the things that happened in a past relationship.
It could be that you are worried that the same patterns will repeat themselves in a new relationship.
Obviously, this is the last thing you want to see happen.
You want to have a happy and loving relationship with the right person, and you don't want to end up getting hurt again.
The dreams you are having maybe your subconscious telling you that the same patterns are being repeated in your new relationship, and this is not what you want at all.
It could also mean that you still need to get closure in order to be able to fully move on.
Maybe You are Breaking Up with Yourself
Dreaming about your ex could mean that you are repressing another side of yourself that you need to open up and get in touch with.
It isn't actually a sign that you need to reconnect with your ex.
In fact, it is often a sign that you need to strengthen your relationship with yourself, and figure out who you really are and what you really want from yourself as well as from others.
If you continue to believe that you need to reconnect with your ex, it is not going to make things better.
In fact, there is a very distinct possibility that it will just make things even worse.
Work on loving yourself first and foremost, and don't waste any energy on relationships, at least for the time being.
You Miss Parts of the Relationship
Maybe you don't necessarily miss your ex, but there are parts of the relationship that you miss.
For instance, if you see your ex in a dream, it may mean that they were able to offer you something that you need and miss.
You want the good things they offered during the relationship, but it doesn't always mean that you actually want to have that person back in your life.
Maybe you miss the home you used to live in.
Or, maybe there was an activity you did together that you miss doing.
Remember, there is nothing stopping you from continuing to do these things with someone else.
Something is Making You Unhappy
Dreaming about your ex may actually mean that there is something else in your life that is making you unhappy.
Rather than deal with this problem, your subconscious is going back to that person who made you unhappy.
But, until you resolve the issues that are currently plaguing you, there is likely no way that you are ever going to get past the problem.
Take a look deep within yourself and look at the things that are making you unhappy.
Once you are able to determine what is truly bothering you, then it is time to go to work on that problem to eliminate it once and for all.
Dreaming About Your Ex-Girlfriend
When a man dreams about his ex-girlfriend, there could be various means as to why.
The spiritual meaning of dreaming about your ex-girlfriend can be quite complicated.
For instance, it could mean many different things, along with the emotions felt during the relationship and breakup.
It actually could be about things that are confusing you during your waking life and comes out through your subconscious mind.
Often, this type of dream can mean that you are holding onto memories that you can never get back again.
Your subconscious is reliving a happy time in your life, and it may be that you are not experiencing this same happiness in your new relationship.
This doesn't mean that you need to break up with your new girlfriend and try and get back together with your ex.
It could actually mean that you really do care about this new person, and you need to try to find ways to make this relationship as happy as the former one was.
It is thought that this type of dream represents what your ex represents in your waking life, rather than actually wanting her back in your life.
There is also the possibility that you have unfinished business with your ex-girlfriend.
Maybe you weren't happy with how the relationship ended.
There could be much emotional pain connected with this particular breakup, and this is something you will need to deal with.
Here are some more of the biggest reasons as to why you are dreaming about your ex-girlfriend.
- You are not happy with the way things are presently going in your life
- You are experiencing emotional and/or sexual dissatisfaction with your new partner
- The breakup caused a lot of pain and suffering
- You are trying to see some of the same qualities in your new partner that you saw in your former girlfriend
- You are feeling guilty about how things ended
- You are trying to figure out who's fault the breakup was, and how to avoid it in the future
- Your ex represents other aspects in past relationships, including fighting and abuse
- Maybe you truly are not yet over her, and your subconscious keeps reminding you of this
Dreaming About Your Ex-Boyfriend
It is not uncommon for women to dream about ex-boyfriends while they are in new relationships.
While this may seem a bit strange, there are actually some very good reasons for it, symbolically at least.
There is no simple answer when it comes to the spiritual meaning of dreaming about your ex-boyfriend.
First of all, your subconscious may be trying to compare your new boyfriend to your ex, even if you don't think you do this at all.
Maybe you are dreaming about a breakup with an ex.
This could actually mean that you have a deep-seated fear of being dumped again.
The brain can conjure up some pretty strange scenarios when you are having insecurities while awake, and bring these insecurities out in your dreams.
Maybe you are simply wondering what is happening in your ex's life.
For instance, do they miss you? What are they doing right now?
You may be wondering these things for a couple of reasons, such as being lonely or even being in another unhappy relationship.
If your needs are not being fulfilled in your new relationship, it is only natural that your subconscious would take you back to times when you did feel happy and fulfilled.
You may be seeking intimacy that you are not getting with your new boyfriend.
Here are some more reasons why you might be dreaming about your ex-boyfriend.
- Your sex life isn't fulfilling
- You till have strong feelings for your ex-boyfriend
- They are in a new relationship, and you are jealous
- You are working on burying the past (if the ex dies in your dreams)
Dreaming About Your Ex-Lover
There are often times in our lives when we don't necessarily want a relationship, but we want some of the aspects of a relationship, such as regular sexual relations.
It may be that you have been dreaming about a past lover, someone you had fun with but wasn't in a relationship with.
If this is the case, it could very well mean that you miss the good times with this person, and deep down, you would like to reconnect with them, even if it is only for one night.
Maybe you dreamed that you kissed your former lover, and this surprised you.
It could be that the spiritual meaning of dreaming about your ex-lover is a prediction that there are about to be some good changes coming your way.
On the other hand, if the dream about your former lover isn't a pleasant one, it could mean that there is something that is deeply troubling you.
There are many worries inside your head, and they come out through your dreams.
Here are a few more things to consider when it comes to dreams about an ex-lover.
- If you dream about being friends with a former lover, it may mean they have offended you in some way in the past
- Kissing the spouse of a former lover on the cheek could be a sign that you seek free mutual relations
- If your ex-lover died in your dreams, it could mean that you are going to reconnect once again, but this time as friends and not as lovers
Spiritual Meaning Of Dreaming About Your Ex With Someone Else
There could be a few spiritual meanings of dreaming about your ex with someone else.
For instance, it may be that they broke up with you, and you still have many unresolved feelings about this person.
On the other hand, maybe it was you who initiated the breakup, and you expect this person to remain heartbroken forever of the loss of you.
Your ego won't let you entertain the fact that he or she may be dating other people now.
It could also mean that you don't care that they are seeing someone else, and you are happy that they are able to move on.
It also means that it is time for you to be able to move on yourself and enter into a new relationship.
The dream world is fascinating, and a mystery to most of us.
We often wake up from dreams thinking, “what in the hell was that even about”.
Sometimes we remember our dreams, other times we are lucky to be able to remember bits and pieces if anything at all.
If you are dreaming about an ex, you probably shouldn't let it worry you too much.
If this is happening a lot, however, it may be time to try and figure out why you are having these dreams, and what you can do in order to stop having them.
Alan is the founder of Subconscious Servant. He has a passion for learning about topics such as spirituality and the metaphysical world. The thing he loves to explore most though is manifesting with the law of attraction ✨.