Are you still dreaming about an ex you don’t talk to anymore? You may ask yourself why this is happening and what it means, especially if this happens quite often.
Maybe you’ve just woke up and have searched online, “what does it mean when you dream of someone you don’t talk to anymore”.
If this is the case, I invite you to read this article, as I will explain what could be the meaning of dreams related to your ex and why this happens.
Then, I will offer guidance for you to resolve the situation, and understand what these dreams are trying to tell you.
After understanding what the dreams mean, what is likely to happen is that you will stop having them and will relate to relationships and to yourself differently.
You will probably heal some past wound that prevents you from moving on in your life and will have a feeling of relief.
The reasons you’re dreaming about an ex you don’t talk to anymore and the meanings of these dreams can be different, thus I encourage you to read the dream interpretation below and decide with your intuition which meanings apply to you.
Why Do I Keep Dreaming About an Ex I Don’t Talk to Anymore?
1. You still love them
One main reason for which you could be still dreaming about an ex you don’t talk to anymore is that you can still love them.
It doesn’t have to be the case – remember what I said before to read all the various reasons and choose whichever feels right for you.
Sometimes when people dream about exes they don’t talk to anymore, they can still have feelings for that person, especially if they were not the ones who initiated the break-up.
Maybe you still loved them when they’ve broken up with you, or you broke up with them despite still loving them.
Whatever the situation is, if you keep dreaming about an ex you that you are not with anymore, the first thing I suggest to do is to check if deep down, you still love the person and you were forced to bury that love.
If this happens to be the case, the first step towards healing is to acknowledge the situation, and then either focus on healing and moving on, or share what you feel with them, just in case they still feel the same!
2. There are unresolved issues with them
Another meaning of dreaming of an ex to whom you don’t talk to anymore is that there could be unresolved issues around the relationship.
These unresolved issues could be anything – from lingering feelings to hard feelings such as anger, fear, or sadness that you still feel deep down, to not feeling at peace with how you were treated in the relationship or with how it ended.
Or maybe you realized that you made some mistakes in the relationship which you wish you hadn’t, or still have things to say to your ex and never got the chance to say them.
Whatever it is, I suggest that you meditate upon the issue and see what exactly was left unresolved, and then see what actions you could take to resolve it.
It could be that you should talk to them or apologize, or that you should just write them a letter and burn it, to release those feelings.
Or it could be that you should view what happened from a different perspective and shift the whole way in which you view romantic relationships.
3. You have trauma to resolve
Some relationships leave us with a lot of trauma to resolve.
These usually are the relationships that were difficult or which ended in painful, traumatic ways.
If you were in a relationship with someone who was verbally, emotionally, or physically abusive you have a higher chance of feeling traumatized after the relationship.
If you’re dreaming of your ex and during or after the dream you feel some negative, painful emotions, it could be an indication that the dream is meant to reveal trauma that you still have to heal from.
4. You haven’t forgiven them
Another reason why you could be dreaming of your ex is that you haven’t forgiven them for hurting your feelings.
Maybe you haven’t forgiven them for how they treated you when you were together, or for leaving you.
If your dream is making you feel anger and resentment, then you haven’t forgiven your ex and your subconscious is showing you this to help you forgive them sooner.
The reason for this is that if we don’t forgive someone, we can’t move on completely.
Even if we find another relationship, we could just find someone very similar to our ex who will hurt us in similar ways.
As the saying goes, until you forgive the person and learn the lesson you will just meet the same person in different bodies.
If you were in a toxic relationship or a relationship that ended badly, you may have to forgive your ex fully to move on and be happy, and your subconscious mind is bringing memories up as dreams, to signal that there are still issues to resolve there.
5. You still have hard feelings
If you are still dreaming about an ex you don’t talk to anymore and during the dream, you feel resentment, anger, and pain, it could be that you still have hard feelings towards them.
This is similar to the previous point I was making about forgiveness but goes a bit deeper because not forgiving someone can just mean that you are upset with them, but having hard feelings usually involves a great deal of anger.
Sometimes, after a difficult relationship or break-up, we cannot process everything that happened and we feel that were treated unfairly.
If you were left disappointed, lied to, cheated, or abused is normal to feel anger and to have hard feelings a while after the break-up.
However, it is your responsibility to let go of these toxic emotions because they will eventually hurt you and will negatively influence how you view relationships.
When you still have hard feelings towards your ex, you could be reluctant to meet new people or afraid of commitment, or you could be jealous and suspicious of new partners.
This way you could sabotage your future relationships and your happiness, thus, it is very important to let go of any anger and hard feelings you could still have for your ex and replace them with forgiveness and acceptance.
6. They think about you
Another reason why you could be still dreaming of an ex-partner that you are not talking to anymore could be that they still think about you a lot.
You could be wondering what this has to do with you, but when two people spend a lot of time together and develop a relationship, there is an energetic connection between them as well which can be similar to telepathy.
This energy connection makes you feel when they think about you.
They could be thinking about you because they have unresolved issues with you and don’t know how to resolve them.
7. They still love you
An obvious reason why you could be dreaming of an ex could be that they still love you.
If an ex still loves you they probably still think about you a lot, and connect to your subconscious through those energy cords I was mentioning before.
However, if the energy cords can reach you there must be something in you that still allows them to connect to you, so you must be honest with yourself when you ask yourself how do you feel about them.
8. They still have hard feelings
Just as you can still have hard feelings after a break-up, your ex can have them too.
They may not be fully over you, or they may feel like you have treated them unfairly.
They may feel disappointed, angry, or betrayed and because of that, they could think about you a lot, in a rather negative way.
This way, they connect to you through energy cords and their thoughts and feelings reach you when you’re sleeping, because that’s when your subconscious is most vulnerable.
9. Powerful energy cords still tie you to them
When two people are connected emotionally, energy cords appear which form an invisible connection between them.
These energy cords can be even stronger if there has been a sexual connection as well, as through sex there is a very powerful energy string left behind.
If you still have feelings for your ex-partner and you have created a strong energetic bond through sex, it’s normal to dream of them, because your subconscious mind is picking up on that energy cord, and you could also receive information about your ex through them.
10. You miss who you were in the relationship
Sometimes when you keep dreaming about an ex that you’re not speaking to anymore, the reason behind these dreams can have nothing to do with them at all, but rather, everything to do with you.
Dreaming about an ex does not necessarily mean that you miss them, but rather it could mean that you miss something about your life and how you were back then when you were still with them.
They could just remind you of a version of yourself that does not exist anymore, and which you miss.
Maybe life has been difficult lately and you’re not as happy, fulfilled, and energetic as you were when you were with your ex.
Your subconscious probably associates them with that version of you, but in reality, they have nothing to do with that.
You just need to reconnect with your authentic self again and find that version of you that you miss.
11. You miss something about the relationship
When we’re dreaming about an ex, again, it doesn’t always have to be about them.
It could also mean that you miss something that the relationship was offering you and you’re not finding it elsewhere.
Maybe you miss the security you had in that relationship, the trust, the fun times together, the love and support, etc.
Basically, you are missing something that you did not manage to find since you separated from your partner.
If this is the case, I advise you to try and see what aspect of the relationship you are missing and to see how you can find that certain something in our current relationship, or how you can offer it to yourself.
12. You need closure
Another reason why an old partner you don’t communicate to anymore keeps poping up in your dreams is you haven’t had the closure you need in order to move on and be happy.
Maybe they broke up with you unexpectedly or just left without an explanation.
Whatever it is, you may not feel that things ended fairly or that they are completely resolved for you.
You may still have things that you wished to say and you never got the chance.
Whatever the situation is, you can gain closure in many ways – talking to your ex, writing them a letter that you either send or just burn on a Full Moon to release the feelings, etc.
13. You feel lonely
Another meaning is that you feel lonely.
Maybe you feel lonely in your current relationship, or maybe you did not manage to find another fulfilling relationship.
Maybe your life changed after the break-up and realized that you did not have many close relationships other than your former romantic ones.
Whatever the situation, if you feel very lonely and the last time when you felt a connection with someone was with your ex, this could be the reason why you still dream about them.
14. You are not happy in your current relationship
Another reason why you could be still dreaming about that ex you don’t speak to anymore is that you’re not happy in your current relationship.
If the relationship you’re in at the moment makes you feel lonely, and the last time you felt a real connection with someone was with your ex, then this is the reason why you are still dreaming about them.
Your subconscious mind is repeating those scenes in which you were not feeling lonely, to help you realize what type of relationship you need in your life.
15. You are repeating the same pattern
If you dream about your ex while dating someone else, I suggest that you start comparing the two relationships.
Are they similar? Are they opposites? Are the two people treating you the exact same way?
Because if you dream about an ex that you don’t talk to anymore while dating someone else, your subconscious is either trying to tell you that you haven’t moved on from that relationship, or that you are repeating the same relationship pattern – and it’s probably not a healthy one.
16. You haven’t healed yourself
One meaning of dreaming about an ex-love that you’re not talking to anymore is that you haven’t healed yourself properly after the break-up.
You may still have some emotional wounds caused by that relationship – including the traumas I was mentioning before, and your subconscious mind is warning you about these wounds which can sabotage your future relationships if they are not healed.
17. You did not understand the karmic lesson
If you still dream about an ex quite often, one spiritual meaning of this could be that you did not understand the karmic lesson.
You may have been in a karmic relationship, meaning that you’ve known this person from a past life, and you’ve wronged them in a past life, so now you have come to pay your karmic debt.
In this case, it’s quite important to do a past life regression and see what this karma was related to, and also what is the karmic lesson behind it.
18. You still have a life mission together
Life mission is what we all receive when we incarnate on Earth.
Our mission represents what we came to do and learn in order to complete this life successfully.
If you keep dreaming about an ex-partner, it could mean that you were not supposed to break up because you still have a life mission to do together.
You may have to achieve something together or build a life together, or simply to learn from each other.
If this is the case, they may come back into your life one way or another.
19. They’re about to walk back into your life
One of the last reasons on this list is that your spirit guides and guardian angels are warning you that they may walk back into your life.
This can happen if you two still have unfinished business together such as lessons to learn or karma to pay, or still have strong feelings for each other and should still be together.
20. You two are meant to get back together
If you and your ex should have never broken up in the first place, you could be dreaming about them a lot, as your subconscious is trying to tell you and show you that.
Sometimes people break up even if according to the Divine Plan they should still be together, thus their energy bodies remain interconnected.
If your ex keeps showing up in your dreams, it could be a sign from the universe that they are still meant to be in your life and that maybe, you should make the first step to get them back.
What Can You Do If You Keep Dreaming About an Ex?
If you keep dreaming about an ex, you have two options for dealing with the situation:
1. Figure out what it means on your own
If you trust your intuition enough, you can try and figure out why you keep dreaming about your ex by tuning in to your intuition.
Maybe this article can help you identify the reason why you keep dreaming about your ex.
I suggest reading through all the possible reasons and seeing what your intuition is telling you.
When you’re reading the reason that applies to you, you should resonate with it and feel that it is correct.
2. Talk to a psychic love advisor
If for any reason you feel that you can’t figure it out on your own, there is always the option of talking to an advisor who is specialized in such things and can offer you a professional opinion.
However, choosing the right advisor is crucial, because you need someone with real psychic abilities – not just anyone.
Psychic Source is an option for advisors, but there are many others as well.
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Alexandra, the head author at Subconscious Servant is a Psychologist, Reiki Therapist, and writer. She loves writing about any topic from Applied Psychology, Metaphysical and Spiritual healing, hoping that people on a spiritual, self-discovery journey will find guidance and light through her articles. If you want to read more about Alexandra, visit her full author bio here.