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Understanding Twin Flame Separation Pain + 5 Steps To Feeling Better

Understanding Twin Flame Separation Pain + 5 Steps To Feeling Better

Twin Flame separation pain is one of the most important steps in the Twin Flame journey, yet, one of the most difficult and challenging.

If you have been through this stage already or currently are, you know exactly how excruciatingly painful can be.

In order to get to this stage and to move on towards the next stage of your Twin Flame journey, it's essential to understand why this pain occurs and to know what can help you feel better. 

What Is Twin Flame Separation Pain?

Twin Flame separation pain is the pain that you feel after the rosy and all-happy stage of your relationship has ended, and you and your Twin Flame have gone through the quarrel and broke up.

This stage is inevitable, and is a major part of the Twin Flame journey. It plays a decisive role.

Also, to see it from a positive viewpoint, this is the first step towards the reunion!

Understanding Twin Flame Separation Pain

Woman with twin flame separation pain

Everyone at the stage of Twin Flame separation pain is first asking themselves why they have to go through this.

When you are in the midst of the Twin Flame separation pain, it's natural to ask yourself this question. After all, this might be one of the hardest things you experience in life.

The answer is that in this stage, all of your wounds and aspects that need healing will surface.

Thus, the Twin Flame separation pain is the perfect occasion for you to start working on yourself and become a better, more aligned version of yourself. 

In the stage of Twin Flame separation pain, there are very high chances that you will also find your life purpose, or you will find a path that is highly beneficial for you in the long run.

Following your path or achieving your life purpose, will bring you great satisfaction and will help you be in alignment with your higher-self.

The Twin Flame relationship and especially the Twin Flame pain are triggers for your spiritual journey of growth, evolution and self-discovery.

The ultimate purpose of this is self-achievement, so, even if at this stage it really doesn't feel like it, you could actually be grateful for meeting your Twin Flame and embarking on this challenging journey. 

Symptoms Of Twin Flame Separation Pain

Man with twin flame separation pain

Twin Flame separation pain manifests differently for every person, but there are several common symptoms.

These will help you be clear on whether what you are experiencing is Twin Flame separation pain, and if so, will be the confirmation that you need to start and do the healing. 

The main symptoms of Twin Flame separation pain are: 

Intense emotional pain

The negative emotion that you are experiencing at the moment is beyond the simple sadness you experience during a random break-up.

It's an intense, heart-breaking pain that can leave you feeling terrible and unable to do much.

Dramatically, it kind of feels like someone has ripped out your heart and soul – that is because the person you just broke up with was your other half.


This emotional pain can turn into depression at some point. If this happens, don't worry about it, it is totally normal.

This happens because meeting your Twin Flame and reuniting with the other half of your soul gave you a sense of purpose and completion, which you have now lost.

But it doesn't have to be like that – you don't need to lose your sense of purpose and completion.

You can use this pain as a catalyst to find your own purpose and start feeling complete on your own – and then you will attract your Twin Flame back to you.

Separation Sickness

Separation sickness can cause a variety of physical symptoms, such as chest pain, stomach ache, and indigestion, sexual impotence, or just pain and discomfort in various parts of your body.

All these fall under the category of somatic symptoms – most of them are not real illnesses at first, they are caused by your mental torment.

However, I do recommend seeing a doctor if any of these symptoms get worse because sometimes the body needs physical aid for such somatic symptoms to disappear.

Feelings Of Confusion

At first, after you've just separated from your Twin Flame you might feel confused and lost.

Pretty much like you're not sure what to do next, or like your sense of purpose has somehow been altered.

Don't worry about this because it will pass, as soon as you start healing and understanding your Twin Flame journey, and it will actually lead towards finding your life purpose. 

5 Steps To Feeling Better From Twin Flame Separation Pain

woman feeling better from  her twin flame separation pain

Even though the pain of separation is quite intense, there are certain things that you can do to start feeling better.

Remember, this journey is meant to help you grow and evolve spiritually, not to destroy you.

This means that the sun will start shining again if you allow it to. If you want to start feeling better, follow the next important steps: 

Step 1. Understand

Understanding is the first step towards feeling better.

The fact that you are now reading this article shows that you are about to understand what is happening to you and why.

Understanding the Twin Flame journey is very important, as it helps you see that it is something meant to happen this exact way, in order to help you grow and evolve.

In order to understand better, I suggest reading about Twin Flames and getting in touch with people who have also experienced this journey themselves, whether they've already reunited with their Twin or not.

A community of people who understand how this feels is very useful as they will never judge you and will be willing to offer you guidance and support in the roughest of times.

In order to understand the Twin Flame journey better, do the necessary research and find your tribe!

Step 2. Accept

Accept what happened and accept the fact that this is the only way things could have unfolded.

Stop blaming yourself, stop overthinking, stop wishing things would have gone differently.

Accept that you and your Twin Flame have a divine mission to fulfill together and this is how it should begin – in a challenging and rough way.

Be in complete acceptance with everything that has happened, and as soon as you do that, you will start feeling better. 

Step 3. Forgive

Forgive yourself and your Twin for the mistakes both of you have done.

Forgiveness can be difficult, but forgiveness plays a very important part in the reunion of the Twin Flames.

Once you have forgiven them, you will feel so released as if a big, heavy burden was lifted off your shoulders.

Also, when you do reunite, you will be ready to have a fresh and clean start with your Twin. 

Step 4. Heal

As you met your Twin Flame to help you grow and evolve, they most certainly have made you become aware of parts of you that you did not even know exist.

These parts could be past wounds, childhood trauma, shadow work, and inner child work that you need to do in order to become a more evolved version of yourself.

Everything that has come to the surface from your relationship with your Twin Flame has come with a reason, and the reason is that the more aspects of yourself you get to heal, the more you become aligned to your higher-self.

By healing, we also clear a bit of karma, we become better, wiser, and more enlightened versions of ourselves.

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Step 5. Raise your vibration

When we are in lower vibration or lower states of consciousness, emotions such as sadness, anger, disappointment can easily derail us and makes us feel terrible.

On the other hand, when we are on a higher energetic frequency, we feel these emotions less intense. So, start working on raising your vibrational frequency.

A few effective ways to do this are:

  • Seeing a therapist and finding out about healthy ways to release negative emotions.
  • Seeing an energy healer who can cleanse your aura and any negative energies.
  • Practicing meditation.
  • Listening to high-vibrational music.
  • Eating healthy food and drinks.
  • Spending time and nature.
  • Doing sports, and so on.

Not to forget, learning to live in acceptance is another powerful thing that can increase your vibrational energy.

There are many actions you can take in order to increase your vibrational frequency, therefore I suggest you start doing it as soon as possible! 

To conclude, I would like to tell my readers that I too have met my Twin Flame in this lifetime, and it has not been an easy process.

We have not reunited yet, as both of us have a lot of healing to do until then.

It may not even happen in this lifetime, and I am in full acceptance of that.

I just want to let you know that I get what you are going through, and even though at this stage it may feel terribly painful and horrible, it will get better.

The most important thing is your attitude and the way you view the situation.

Try to see the glass as being half full, and to acknowledge the great opportunity that life has given you to become a better version of yourself and to level up spiritually!

If you want to find out more about the Twin Flame separation process and what you can do to speed up the reunion, you can find more in-depth information in my other article “Twin Flame Separation – 3 significant causes and how to prepare for the reunion“. 

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